Those of us with Autistic Spectrum Differences have undeniable difficulties navigating the neurotypical world. We also have unique ways to experience what I call “autistic joy.” Where does this joy come from? From pursuing and sharing our special interests.

When my kids were diagnosed (and I was undiagnosed), we were told that autistic kids have “perseverations” which sounds pretty pathological to me. Now that I know better, and also know that I am autistic, I call these special interests. 

Autistic special interests may be singular and lifelong, or they may change over time. Autistic folks can have more than one special interest! What distinguishes these special interests is that they are intense. We like spending time learning about and “practicing” our special interests. 

Some autistic special interests are stereotypical, and these tend to be interests more commonly found in boys, since most research on autism up until very recently, focused on boys (mostly white, upper middle to upper class) only. These “typical autistic interests” may include video games, trains, dinosaurs and others. Autistic girls also may have “stereotypical” interests and these may even prevent these girls (and women) from being identified as autistic. These interests may include horses, other animals or celebrities.

My special interests include: autism, professional wrestling, fiber crafts (knitting, spinning, sewing), video games and stationery. One of my daughters’ special interests are tamagotchis, music and vintage video games and nostalgic children’s TV shows; my other daughter is also into music as well as pro wrestling, video games, board games and politics. 

When we get to “do” our special interests or talk about them, we experience what I call autistic joy. These special interests are some of the most wonderful experiences we can have. 

When autistics speak with allistics (non autistic people), there can often be a disconnect; allistics may be bored or confused by the depth and intensity of our interest and knowledge  in subjects that may not interest them. When we speak with other autistics, however, even if our interests do not match, we often find joy in hearing each other’s enthusiasms. 

Autistic joy bubbles up and buoys our mood. It is one of the things I like most about being autistic. If you know or love someone who is autistic, see whether you can get even a little bit interested in their special interests. You may find that you both enjoy your time together more than you thought you could!